2004-02-13 - 1:26 p.m.
Wuv. Twue Wuv. Mawwage.
Kimuchi and N are getting married. Wheee!!! I love me some same gender weddings. It’s not just because I had one myself. They are just SOOOO fun. Because there are no expectations. Well there are expectations. Like people expect at a lesbian wedding there will be an invocation to the Earth Goddess. But really, I love same gender weddings because they are EXACTLY the reflection of the couple. And knowing how super cool Kimuchi and N are, their wedding will be super cool.
Last night I was glued to the TV watching C-Span’s (ok how often do you hear THAT) coverage of the Massachusetts’ Constitutional Convention to amend the state constitution to define marriage as something between a man and a woman. Luckily I got to the part where the people on my side were talking. I was truly moved by the power of their words. These were predominantly straight people, particularly old ladies, talking about justice and culture and the affirmation of everyone’s basic humanity.
In particular one legislator was talking about her experience as a child in the Holocaust. What was mindblowing was that there were people toally trying to interrupt her. Here is a woman talking about seeing her parents arrested by a fascist government and people are yelling over her. This is truly what I don’t understand. How do people close their hearts to each other? I remember getting into a debate with a friend about abortion. He is against abortion because his brother was identified with some disability and the doctors encouraged his mother to abort his brother. She went against her doctors wishes and had his brother. He couldn’t imagine life without his brother so he couldn’t support a procedure that would deny his brother life.
I don’t necessarily agree with his logic. But I can understand the power of the emotion behind how he came to his opinion. I can relate to the love he has for his brother. And I would never ever try and shut him down for it. If my beliefs can’t withstand hearing how someone came to their opposing beliefs, then they weren’t strong to begin with. But lo and behold that’s what certain people were doing in Massachusetts.
And speaking of unaccountable beliefs, I really want to hear anyone whose marriage HAS BEEN DIRECTLY IMPACTED by a same gender wedding. The only instance I can think of is that someone’s spouse realized they were queer and left the marriage. But really, for all of those people who have said same gender marriage is the downfall of marriage, I ask – HOW? How exactly will your marriage be less secure? How will your spouse love you less? How will your children feel less connected to you if the government says and mr. Activision and I get the same rights as you? In WHAT CONCRETE WAY will your relationship deteriorate? And if you are so worried about the sanctity of marriage, why are you picking on the same gender marriage and LEGISLATING against them when you could create laws to outlaw freaky publicity stunts like the whole Britney fiasco? Why pick on us?
I say this because I want to hear why same gender marriage frightens people so. No, really.
